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婚姻的問題

1關於你們信上所提的事,男人不親近女人倒好。 2但為了避免淫亂的事,男人當各有自己的妻子,女人也當各有自己的丈夫。 3丈夫對妻子要盡本分;妻子對丈夫也要如此。 4妻子對自己的身體沒有主張的權柄,權柄在丈夫;丈夫對自己的身體也沒有主張的權柄,權柄在妻子。 5夫妻不可忽略對方的需求,除非為了要專心禱告,在兩相情願下暫時分房;以後仍要同房,免得撒但趁着你們情不自禁而引誘你們。 6我說這話是出於容忍,不是命令。 7我願眾人像我一樣;但是各人都有來自上帝的恩賜,一個是這樣,一個是那樣。
8我對沒有嫁娶的和寡婦說,他們若能維持獨身像我一樣就好。 9但他們若不能自制,就應該嫁娶,與其慾火攻心,倒不如結婚為妙。
10至於那已經嫁娶的,我吩咐他們-其實不是我,而是主吩咐的:妻子不可離開丈夫, 11若是離開了,不可再嫁,不然要跟丈夫復和;丈夫也不可離棄妻子。
12我對其餘的人說-是我,不是主說-倘若某弟兄有不信的妻子,妻子也情願和他一起生活,他就不可離棄妻子。 13妻子有不信的丈夫,丈夫也情願和她一起生活,她就不可離棄丈夫。 14因為不信的丈夫會因着妻子成了聖潔;不信的妻子也會因着丈夫成了聖潔。不然,你們的兒女就不潔淨了,但現在他們是聖潔的。 15倘若那不信的人要離開,就由他離開吧!無論是弟兄是姊妹,遇着這樣的事都不必拘束。上帝召你們原是要你們和睦。 16你這作妻子的怎麼知道不能救你的丈夫呢?你這作丈夫的怎麼知道不能救你的妻子呢?

照蒙召時的身份生活

17無論如何,要照主所分給各人的恩賜和上帝所召各人的情況生活。我在各教會裏都是這樣規定的。 18有人受割禮後才蒙召,他就不必除去割禮的記號。有人未受割禮前蒙召,他就不必受割禮。 19受割禮算不了甚麼,不受割禮也算不了甚麼,只要謹守上帝的誡命就是了。 20各人蒙召的時候是甚麼身份,要守住這身份。 21你是作奴隸時蒙召的嗎?不要介意;若能獲得自由,就爭取自由更好。 22因為,蒙主呼召的奴僕是主所釋放的人;蒙主呼召的自由之人是基督的奴僕。 23你們是重價買來的;不要作人的奴僕。 24弟兄們,你們各人蒙召的時候是甚麼身份,要在上帝面前守住這身份。

未婚和寡居

25關於未婚女子,我沒有主的命令,但我既蒙主憐憫、作為一個可信靠的人,把自己的意見告訴你們。 26因現今的艱難,據我看來,人不如安於現狀。 27你已經有了妻子,就不要求擺脫;你還沒有妻子,就不要想娶妻。 28你若娶妻,並不是犯罪;未婚女子若出嫁,也不是犯罪。然而,這等人會遭受肉身上的苦難,我寧願你們免受這苦難。
29弟兄們,我是說:時候不多了。從此以後,那有妻子的,要像沒有一樣; 30哀哭的,不像在哀哭;快樂的,不像在快樂;購買的,像一無所得; 31享受這世界的,不像在享受這世界;因為這世界的局面將要過去了。
32我願你們一無掛慮。沒有結婚的是為主的事掛慮,想怎樣令主喜悅; 33結了婚的是為世上的事掛慮,想怎樣讓妻子喜悅, 34於是,他就分心了。沒有結婚的和未婚的女子是為主的事掛慮,為要身體和心靈都聖潔;已經出嫁的是為世上的事掛慮,想怎樣讓丈夫喜悅。 35我說這話是為你們的益處,不是要限制你們,而是要你們做合宜的事,得以不分心地對主忠誠。
36若有人認為自己待他的女兒不合宜,女兒也過了適婚年齡,他可以隨意處理,不算有罪,讓兩人結婚就是了。 37倘若有人心裏堅定,沒有不得已的事,並且由得自己作主,心裏又決定了不讓女兒結婚,這樣做也好。 38這樣看來,讓自己的女兒結婚固然是好,不讓她結婚更好。
39丈夫活着的時候,妻子是受約束的;丈夫若長眠了,妻子就自由了,可以隨意再嫁,只是要嫁給主裏面的人。 40然而,按我的意見,她若能守節就更有福氣。我想我自己也有上帝的靈的感動。

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Concerning Married Life

1Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Concerning Change of Status

17Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. 19Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts. 20Each person should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.
21Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22For the one who was a slave when called to faith in the Lord is the Lord’s freed person; similarly, the one who was free when called is Christ’s slave. 23You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings. 24Brothers and sisters, each person, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation they were in when God called them.

Concerning the Unmarried

25Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
29What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not; 30those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.
32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
36If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. 37But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. 38So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.
39A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 40In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.